Yet Another SLATE’s Care And Feeding "Your White Daughter Had It Coming" Article
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Yet Another SLATE’s “Care And Feeding” "Your White Daughter Had It Coming" Article

Earlier by Aveline Talmadge

And by Steve Sailer:

If you are a white parent whose white child is a victim of black or Hispanic bullying, don't come crying to Slate's Jamilah Lemieux, pictured right.

This is the third item in a 2019 Slate Care And Feeding column in parental advice. (The headline is about the top item, and is "I’m Worried My Friend’s Son Is a Psychopath | He gives me the creeps—and he just killed a bunny,"  by Jamilah Lemieux, September 11, 2019 and is illustrated with a stock photo of a little white boy holding a hammer.)


Dear Care and Feeding,

We live in a very multicultural and socioeconomically diverse area in South Florida. We are white, and both my husband and I are well-off professionals. Our 4½-year-old daughter has grown up socializing with all types of children and has a close friend who is black and one who is Brazilian.

There are two Hispanic little girls at the preschool that have made meanish comments to my child based on her race and appearance. They have told her that they didn’t like her because of her blond hair and that they won’t be friends with her because she doesn’t speak Spanish. I’ve reiterated to my daughter that she should be kind, that all people are the same on the inside, and that we shouldn’t judge people by their appearance.

People are not all the same on the inside, and the problem is not her small blond daughter not being kind, but her darker-skinned classmates.

This past week, she informed me that the girls have now told her that they will only be friends with other girls who have dark skin, not light skin like hers. We are only three weeks into the school year, but I’m thinking of emailing the teacher. Comments about skin color and hair color seem really wrong to me. If my child said she didn’t want to be friends with a little Hispanic girl because her skin is brown or because her hair is black, I would certainly take action. Is it too soon to reach out, and if not, what should I say?

Lemieux's response is to literally blame the victim—and her race, and her nation's government—and absolve the little brown bullies.

Here's a list of her justifications for bullying, which I've put into point form:

  • You’re in a culturally and economically diverse community, which likely means an area that is undergoing gentrification.
  • Your family is well-to-do, which leads me to infer that these children may be from a somewhat different background.
  • The increasingly open contempt for Hispanic and Latinx people that has been stoked by the current [i.e., Trump, in 2019] presidential administration.
  • A strong possibility that these kids may have seen, heard, or experienced some things that might make them hostile toward—or fearful of—white folks.
  • The girls may have heard their parents talk about rising rents pushing neighbors out of a neighborhood that may be changing to serve a wealthier, whiter population.
  • They may have witnessed friends being mistreated by members of the MAGA hat masses (or some racist-ass liberals).
  • They may even have seen loved ones harassed or detained by U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement agents.

Then there’s this:

It may be comfortable to think, No, this is just a matter of kids seeing someone unfamiliar and not knowing how to react, but I find that unlikely. At 4 or 5, most children of color have already been widely exposed to positive representations of white people in the media—Disney princesses ensure that your daughter is not the first pale blonde they’ve come across. It’s more likely that she represents to them either troubling events or things that they’ve had to deal with.

When you speak to the teacher about what happened, be careful not to suggest that these little girls have done something remotely comparable to a situation in which the children’s races were reversed…

Of course not! All these things she's suggesting as justification for hating little blonde white girls are absolutely required to be overlooked by whites: objecting to strange people moving into your neighborhood, people of other colors victimizing your neighbors, or a government that has increasingly open contempt for your race is practically the definition of white racism.

I think if Jamilah Lemieux would look into her own heart, presuming she has one, she'd see that the reason the little girls hate their blonde classmate is that she's better looking than them, and has better hair.

And if you're a white parent, for God's sake don't get your parenting advice from Slate.

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